The best thing.

Nothing like an OKC Thunder win & Kevin Durant coming back to put me in a good mood and want to write. (9-6...in case you were wondering.)

So here it goes...

Being single is both a blessing and a curse. I say it's a blessing and a curse simply because it can be the best thing to happen to you and it can absolutely suck at the same time. Being single is the perfect time to discover yourself, as cliche as that is, it's true. It gives you the chance to do what YOU love to do, and figure out what YOU want in life. When you're with somebody for a long period of time, or even short as it seems to go these days, you plan around them. You plan tomorrow, next week, next month, or even an entire lifetime. Sometimes you don't think about the things you want to do, but instead you think about the things BOTH of you want or you think about what THEY want. When you're single you have the chance to explore without someone questioning or keeping tabs on you. You learn to understand yourself better. You realize you like certain things you never even noticed before. Sometimes you just need a little change to help start the process of becoming yourself again.

Now that's the good part, the suckish part is when you realize that you don't have someone to talk to all the time. Or someone that can make you laugh so hard you can't breathe. Or make you smile and help make the bad days feel good again. It sucks, it really does, and honestly...that's about all the bad I can think of right now. Why? Because it gets easier. It's hard at the beginning, and even in the middle, but you get over it. That's not to say you don't still care about the person, but it gets easier to move on and away from all that pain and heartache. Once you decide to move on with your life and quit letting the person or the people that hurt you, hurt you, life will become a lot easier.  Yeah, it gets pretty lonely and I wish I had more friends up here. But life goes on and I'm learning how to be myself without having anyone by my side. You have to learn how to be happy and get stuff done on your own.






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