Don't be a Regina.

I'm the type of person who doesn't care what people think about me. Sometimes that's a good thing and sometimes it's not so good.

Here's an example of why it's a not so good thing...

I've always been the person who doesn't really have great control over my mouth and over my emotions (I blame my Korean jeans for this one. I hear Koreans have feisty tempers). Growing up with 3 older brothers, I learned to be tough and how to defend myself. So once I got into middle school, I wasn't exactly the nicest kid in town. I kicked, I punched, I yelled, and hit all the guys in my youth group. If they made me mad, or just caught me on a bad day, then it got ugly. I knew they were probably stronger than me, but I didn't care. That didn't stop me from doing whatever I had to do to get my point across. I didn't care if I hurt them, as long as I made my point then I was good. Now that I'm older, I look back and realize...I WAS ONE HECK OF A MEAN PERSON! So let me take the time to apologize to all the guys I may or may not have "beat up" or "beat on" in our youth group. And to all of my brother's friends...I was a vicious 2 year old.

Now here's an example of why it could be a good thing...or at least better...

Flash forward to 8th grade (I know, still technically middle school) and to the rest of my high school career. In 8th grade a very lovely nasty rumor was spread about me (I would rather not go into detail about it). One that was not at all true in any way, shape, or form. People believed every bit of this rumor. I'm pretty sure in only a matter of days the whole school heard this rumor. Having the kind of "I don't care what people think about me" personality that I have, this didn't bother me as much as people would think. Of course it got to me, I mean, no one wants a rumor spread about you that calls you nasty names and that is untrue. If you do want that, then you're seeking a lot of negative attention. But I never really cried over the rumor or situation I was in. We confronted it head on and put a stop to it as soon as we could. Unfortunately the rumor swirled up again once I was in high school and it never really died down since then. Because of that one rumor, I've been labeled. I've been called horrible things and none of them are true. I never let what anyone ever said about me or thought about me stop me. I knew those rumors weren't true, I knew people just wanted so badly for me to mess up, that they were going to believe anything they heard, despite whether it was true or not. It didn't matter how many times I said it was a lie, they were still going to believe it. But it's okay, because I moved on. I never let them bother me, I brushed it all off and moved on with my life.

Sometimes you can't stop what people say or think about you, but you can ignore them. If people don't like you they will say whatever they have to say to try and make you feel bad so that they can feel good about themselves. Obviously it's never fun to be the victim, but it does give you insight into what it's like, so that you don't victimize someone else. How about instead of victimizing people, you don't. Now I know ALL you girls have seen the movie Mean Girls. You see how it ends! You see how popularity, rumors, and being mean gets you nowhere. Regina George got hit by a bus people.


Don't be a Regina, you'll only get hit by a bus.

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